You Are Beautifully Made
ICS Daily Devotions
Proverbs 5:18-19 (NKJV) Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth. As a loving deer and a graceful doe, let her breasts satisfy you at all times; and always be enraptured with her love.
Sex is designed by God and is meant to be enjoyed within the marriage. Fantasies and passion for sex with the spouse are pure. Therefore, there is nothing wrong with thinking about sex with our spouse in our minds. We can plan for it and see how we can arouse each other in the privacy of our home.
Psalms 139:13-14 (NKJV) For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother’s womb. I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, and that my soul knows very well.
There are various reasons why some couples do not enjoy sex within marriage. Some couples might have a sexless marriage, or one party is shunning every approach by their spouse. It causes a strain on the relationship.
The first reason could be having been told that they are unattractive. Some individuals reject themselves regarding their physical appearance, disliking or even hating their bodies. The world has deceived them into thinking that they are unattractive by giving them a warped definition of beauty, which includes having a perfect figure and face. Also, they might have been body-shamed by classmates and cyberbullying due to their size and appearance. Hatred of our bodies is like cancer that has spread through society, and it could happen to a man or a woman. They might be too ashamed to show their bodies to their spouse. Although they can opt for plastic surgeries, there are deeper issues besides outward appearance.
The second reason could be the experience of being violated when they were younger. Therefore, their perception of sex will always fall back on the sexual abuse incident during childhood. Every sexual intimacy causes them to recall the incident.
The third reason could be the perception that sex is dirty or sex is just for men. The last reason could be exposure and addiction to pornography. When someone is addicted to pornography, there will be certain expectations of the opposite sex.
We need to have a renewal of our minds regarding sexual intimacy within marriage, no matter what the reasons are. We have to allow God to heal us if we have been violated. We need to look at ourselves from God’s perspective. The Bible tells us that we are beautifully and wonderfully made. He is the master craftsman who has created us uniquely.
Sermon Series: Before You Say I Do
