What a Godly Wife Looks Like
ICS Daily Devotions
1 Timothy 3:11 (NKJV) Likewise, their wives must be reverent, not slanderers, temperate, faithful in all things.
Ephesians 5:33 (NKJV) Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
What does the Bible say about how a wife should behave? The above Scriptures say she should love God and have a reverential fear of Him, and she should respect her husband.
Some women are highly opinionated, critical, loud, unkind, and condescending in their words. They often hold negative attitudes, are controlling, and radiate negative vibes. These women tend to struggle with their husbands. They are high-maintenance and challenging to live with at home, which will take a toll on the marital relationship.
A critical wife will make her husband feel that nothing he does is ever good enough. Being constantly unkind with her words will break the husband’s spirit. This is also applicable to the husband’s behaviour towards the wife. When the wife is overly controlling in what he can or cannot do, it will make the husband want to break free. Of course, the husband must also establish trust by being upfront, candid, self-revealing, keeping promises, behaving consistently, and clarifying if necessary.
A woman should not be temperamental, meaning she will not exhibit aggressive behaviour in their words or actions, whether at home or in public. She has a redeemed personality because she allows the Holy Spirit to lead them and walk in the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus. She knows God’s Word and practises living it out daily, particularly in the way she treats her husband with respect.
Some wives will tell their husbands off in front of their friends and even belittle them for what they have or haven’t done. There is no respect or regard for the husband’s feelings. It is even worse when she earns more and has more assets than he does. The husband will be hurt and ashamed in front of their friends and children. It is an utter disrespect of the husband to belittle or shame him publicly and in front of the children.
If she is Spirit-filled, she can control her emotions by living from the inside out. She respects her husband, who is the head of the house appointed by God. She will be wise enough to know what to say, when and how to say it, without being disrespectful. She walks in the Spirit and does not gratify the desires of the flesh that seek to live independently of God. She is submissive to the Lordship of Christ because Jesus is her Saviour, and she recognises the authority of the Word.
If a couple has agreed that she should return to the workforce, then both the husband and wife should divide the family’s responsibilities, especially the needs of the children. She is faithful in all things given to her.
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