We Need Others to Tell Us Our Blind Spots
ICS Daily Devotions
Proverbs 27:5-6 (AMP) Better is an open reprimand [of loving correction]Than love that is hidden. Faithful are the wounds of a friend [who corrects out of love and concern], But the kisses of an enemy are deceitful [because they serve his hidden agenda].
We all want good relationships with family, friends, neighbours, and colleagues. However, sometimes, we may not recognise some of our weaknesses—the blind spots in our lives. At other times, we might be aware of them but are unwilling to change or are simply in denial. Nonetheless, this often leads to many unpleasant encounters or exchanges with those around us.
Our patterns of behaviour come from several contributing factors. One of the most obvious is how our parents have raised us, based on the values and principles they hold. It also involves how we perceive ourselves. Our personality plays a significant role as well. The experiences in our lives shape our thinking, perception of others, and how we view the world around us. While some of these experiences can bring about good in our lives, it is those negative attitudes and behavioural patterns that are concerning because if they are not addressed, they can become emotional baggage that we carry throughout our lives. Many of these are so deeply embedded in us that we are often unaware of them, but we ought to address those bad habits, incorrect thoughts, and destructive behaviours so that we can experience and enjoy the abundant life.
A reprimand, whether given openly or privately, will not be pleasant for the receiver, as it can hurt and bruise their ego. However, if we know the person reprimanding us well and trust that they have our best interests at heart, we should not be offended by the chastisement but be appreciative and thankful for it instead. It takes spiritual maturity and humility to accept a reprimand. The goal is always for us to change for the better. Nonetheless, it doesn’t mean that we should allow anyone to speak into our lives, but only a trusted friend. The friend mentioned in the opening Scripture is not a casual acquaintance. Rather, the kind of friendship described in the Bible is a deep covenantal relationship characterised by loyalty and unfailing love. Such a friend will always speak the truth about our lives and give us constructive criticism if necessary. It is a trusted relationship because we know that this friend is loving, reliable, and dependable.
Nobody is perfect. Therefore, we should not be defensive when a trusted person speaks into our lives about the blind spots we need to address. We should make necessary adjustments so we can grow spiritually, and as we do so, both we and those around us will be blessed.
Sermon Series: Do You Have A Blind Spot in Your Life
